By Toni Turner
“People are always blaming circumstances for what that are. I do not believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they cannot find them, make them.” – George Bernard Shaw
Do you know anyone who has fully left the past behind him or her? Few of us achieve that freedom. For all of us, at some level, the past is not really the past. Even when painful circumstances took place weeks, months, or years ago, at a deep emotional level we still hold onto them.
We try to bury them, but they still affect our lives. The energy we tie up in regret and resentments dwells at an unconscious level, so we don’t realize why we are nagged by feelings of negativity or unhappiness. Yet, unless we somehow release that negative energy, the past lives in our present and shapes our future.
We cannot hold onto negative energy from the past in the form of grudges, resentments, and fears, and at the same time grasp our highest possibilities. Why? Because negative feelings block the flow of positive energy into our lives.
The best way to release the past is to forgive….forgive ourselves and those people and situations that hurt us. Just as our bodies heal physical bruises, our inner self wants to heal emotional injuries. We heal by releasing those injuries. We release by forgiving.
To forgive, we face the matter and own it. We acknowledgment that the negative energy we’ve have carrying around no longer serves us. We choose to leave the situation behind and, in doing so, we forgive.
Forgiveness is a gift to ourselves. It releases us from the past, fills our lives with positive emotions, and frees us to shape abundant, successful tomorrows.